Developing Confidence: Guaranteed

Developing confidence is guaranteed when you build true ability to carry out desired tasks and actions. It rarely comes from bravado unless you get lucky. This article is 500 words long and will take about 2 minutes to read.

Developing confidence doesn’t occur simply from desiring it and so you can’t just conjure it up from somewhere. It is a by-product of another factor and that factor is competence. When we have total competence in any sphere of activity to a level where we can unquestioningly depend upon it, then we have no doubts about getting the result that we set out to obtain. Because of this we have total command over what it takes to deliver that result and this guarantees confidence.

For example, do you lack confidence in walking, in reading, in writing, in finding your way home, in making a telephone call? These are things that most of us can do without consciously thinking about them. These are routine tasks that we can do day-in and day-out time after time and pretty much without fail. However, at one time, we couldn’t do any of these things. There was a time when we couldn’t walk, couldn’t read, couldn’t write, couldn’t find our way home alone, or couldn’t make a telephone call. At one time they were literally impossible for us to do.

All of these processes had to be learned. We go from having no ability to a faltering ability where sometimes we can do it and sometimes not. Then we get better and more consistent (but we still have to consciously think about these things) until finally we can do them automatically and without conscious thinking. Developing confidence is automatic when we have this level of competence with any sphere of activity that we choose to engage in.

Thus, if you want more self confidence, avoid trying to boost a feeling of confidence artificially. If you don’t have sufficient ability to do what you want to do then bravado is unlikely to work. It might do, if you’re lucky, but it’s more likely that it won’t work and then you’ll feel even worse.

Instead think about the ability that you want to have for which you currently have doubts about. This will do three things for you:

1. It gets you to focus on the real problem, which is a genuine lack of ability rather than the idea that you are weak in character.
2. It leads you to develop solutions that can build necessary ability.
3. It gets you to realize that your lack of self-confidence is not a permanent problem about you. You have competence and confidence in many things. By using your existing competence you can translate your resourcefulness into building other necessary abilities.

Relying upon robust capabilities for getting real world results casts off confidence like a shadow is cast from a tall monument. You don’t even have to think about confidence because it follows as the natural outcome of acting upon sturdy and reliable skills, knowledge, methods and experience. When you do this, developing confidence occurs by default – guaranteed!

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